Editor’s note: The following story is true. It was sent to me by a reader who thought it would be cathartic to share her experience here. She wants to help people going through something similar feel less alone. Later this week, I’ll share a longer response piece. I’d also like to post a warning: this piece is gut-wrenching and much heavier than our usual fare.
I feel like the disconnect in a lot of these comments is the cultural assumption that marriages are born of love. That feels like a very western perspective. This woman viewed the marriage as transactional and that's not necessarily wrong. This disgusting repugnant man got to tick the box "married" to a woman that I have no doubt was far out of his league. She put in the time to get a green card. That's a pretty fair value exchange if you take away the infantile "marriage is all about love" western lens.
If I were to go off the rails, I'd hope my loved ones will call me out on it and help me get out of whatever mindspace husbando got into, rather than quietly judging me while never pushing back.
I know redditbrains like mr. Tsundere. They're kind of empty inside, made up of platitudes that got a lot of upvotes. If you still see something in them, it's on you to get them to formulate their own thoughts and develop a personality.
Holy shit. Never stop sharing. I’m reading between the lines here and thinking, processing. Much gratitude for your sharing this experience. Honestly this is a high form of public service.
Idk why but it seems like these comments r blaming this lady. First of all she is 20 and he is 30 that is a 10 year difference that is a fucking lot (im 22 and each year I feel like a new person) it seemed like he was trying to groom her by showing her that stuff. He also fetishized her it seemed for being an Asian women no one is perfect but this is def a toxic relationship and he seemed to have an alterior motive with her so why wouldn’t she (for her safety) keep to herself and focus on her goals. If she confronted him… he could have hurt her. It seems like she was scared to react. I would be too. This older man I depend on is showing me porn of young girls /like what give her a break that is so uncomfortable and unsafe.
Follow-up: https://default.blog/p/just-how-damaging-is-hentai
I feel like the disconnect in a lot of these comments is the cultural assumption that marriages are born of love. That feels like a very western perspective. This woman viewed the marriage as transactional and that's not necessarily wrong. This disgusting repugnant man got to tick the box "married" to a woman that I have no doubt was far out of his league. She put in the time to get a green card. That's a pretty fair value exchange if you take away the infantile "marriage is all about love" western lens.
America is a nation. This Japanese woman can never “be American” she can only be a United States citizen at the most.
If I were to go off the rails, I'd hope my loved ones will call me out on it and help me get out of whatever mindspace husbando got into, rather than quietly judging me while never pushing back.
I know redditbrains like mr. Tsundere. They're kind of empty inside, made up of platitudes that got a lot of upvotes. If you still see something in them, it's on you to get them to formulate their own thoughts and develop a personality.
Just a very uncomfortable story all around.
Feels like staring into the void.
It was brave to post this. Genuinely, fuck the haters and fuck your pedo ex.
This story aged me. I feel older and sadder now.
I have another one I've been sitting on that's even sadder.
I will begin preparing myself mentally for it.
lmao I’m obsessed with this title
It is so weird to me that this comment section treats this like a true story.
It is — I verified it.
Holy shit. Never stop sharing. I’m reading between the lines here and thinking, processing. Much gratitude for your sharing this experience. Honestly this is a high form of public service.
What a bunch of close-minded, judgmental, religious prudes some of you are. Get a life.
people here are really outraged she didn't have empathy for a pedo?? lmao
Idk why but it seems like these comments r blaming this lady. First of all she is 20 and he is 30 that is a 10 year difference that is a fucking lot (im 22 and each year I feel like a new person) it seemed like he was trying to groom her by showing her that stuff. He also fetishized her it seemed for being an Asian women no one is perfect but this is def a toxic relationship and he seemed to have an alterior motive with her so why wouldn’t she (for her safety) keep to herself and focus on her goals. If she confronted him… he could have hurt her. It seems like she was scared to react. I would be too. This older man I depend on is showing me porn of young girls /like what give her a break that is so uncomfortable and unsafe.
The sociopath writing this is only saved by the fact that she married a pedophilic tranny. You’re made for each other.
I wonder what race these two are. Sounds like the man got the stereotype for mixing. Deserved
This is incredible
Maybe it's not true.