Re: WoW relationships working out IRL, that's easy peasy. Overcoming shared adversity during the courtship process builds bonds. Next?
1:08:10 This whole diatribe about "oh she has a bazillion followers? She must be hotter than I thought she was" thought, has been run through the wringer in the PUA groups. The two key terms you want are Social Proof, and Perceived Competition.
Social proof is more that thing they mention earlier, the chained vouching concept, this guy said she was cool, so he said she was cool, etc. This works on both genders. If you're trying to get someone attracted to you, you need the approval of their peers as well (If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends, lol). We're evolved for that sort of shortcut taking in intelligence gathering, we trust the witness of our trusted peers. It's also an exploitable vector because it is so second-nature to do. Spear phishing hackers do it.
Perceived competition is as it sounds. We evolved to want to put ourselves in the best social status possible, so we seek out mates that seem to have high status *to our peer group* in particular. A quick and dirty proxy for status of course is hotness, you figure if someone is physically attractive, others want him or her, and there's a subliminal message that he or she is healthy and makes for fit offspring, but... mostly it's the social ladder climbing, as the guy suspect. But then new information that social proofs this target as having other options than you for a mate - realistic or not - immediately makes them a more desirable target because you at least get the impression that they're higher status, even than you originally perceived yourself. If so, and you still have a chance, your instinct is to immediately claim this mate before your competition does. Works in sales, works with making girls jealous or suspicious of other girls you might be hanging out with, and it even works with Twitter follower counts against the boys, lol.
One of those Gen X not on twitter -lol - I think I heard of you through phetasy - I think you are so interesting- a window into an online world I’m not a part of... and you don’t seem to be captured
Can you post your work on YouTube?
Great episode! When is Gio coming on the podcast?
Now!
Re: WoW relationships working out IRL, that's easy peasy. Overcoming shared adversity during the courtship process builds bonds. Next?
1:08:10 This whole diatribe about "oh she has a bazillion followers? She must be hotter than I thought she was" thought, has been run through the wringer in the PUA groups. The two key terms you want are Social Proof, and Perceived Competition.
Social proof is more that thing they mention earlier, the chained vouching concept, this guy said she was cool, so he said she was cool, etc. This works on both genders. If you're trying to get someone attracted to you, you need the approval of their peers as well (If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends, lol). We're evolved for that sort of shortcut taking in intelligence gathering, we trust the witness of our trusted peers. It's also an exploitable vector because it is so second-nature to do. Spear phishing hackers do it.
Perceived competition is as it sounds. We evolved to want to put ourselves in the best social status possible, so we seek out mates that seem to have high status *to our peer group* in particular. A quick and dirty proxy for status of course is hotness, you figure if someone is physically attractive, others want him or her, and there's a subliminal message that he or she is healthy and makes for fit offspring, but... mostly it's the social ladder climbing, as the guy suspect. But then new information that social proofs this target as having other options than you for a mate - realistic or not - immediately makes them a more desirable target because you at least get the impression that they're higher status, even than you originally perceived yourself. If so, and you still have a chance, your instinct is to immediately claim this mate before your competition does. Works in sales, works with making girls jealous or suspicious of other girls you might be hanging out with, and it even works with Twitter follower counts against the boys, lol.
One of those Gen X not on twitter -lol - I think I heard of you through phetasy - I think you are so interesting- a window into an online world I’m not a part of... and you don’t seem to be captured
Should review under the silver lake at some point