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Mj Clark-Reynolds's avatar

OMG #58! Goes with "if he wanted to he would". Great list

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Martin Greenwald, M.D.'s avatar

1) Excellent list. Lot's I agree with, and the things I don't agree with are still thought-provoking.

2) Help me understand #32: "It’s always better to be the less invested partner, even if it isn’t the more fun option."

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Katherine Dee's avatar

I think you’re at higher risk if you’re the partner that’s head over heels in love

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Martin Greenwald, M.D.'s avatar

Ok I was confused as to whether you were saying "don't be over-the-top invested" vs "it's best to hold back a bit" vs something else.

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Katherine Dee's avatar

this list is kinda old and may be due a video

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Strabo's avatar

I dont mean this as an attack, but on #67, you're talking about people who portray themselves as misfits, make it their persona and constantly play the victim card, right? Cause if you mean it broadly, then that comes off as a very out of touch thing to say.

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Katherine Dee's avatar

I do

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Katherine Dee's avatar

I mean, what you described - the identity of Misfit(tm) not someone who is legitimately marginalized

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Strabo's avatar

Ah I see, in that case I fully agree.

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Jonathan Herz's avatar

Such a timely article as I’ve just signed my divorce papers this month. Really not looking forward to dating again. Not sure if I even want to.

Re: #25… I’ve never had to wait that long in my adult life. But maybe I’ve been dating the wrong women? I kind of think if she made me wait that long I would assume she isn’t in to me. Not saying that it’s bad to wait, it’s just that’s what my dating history has made me feel.

#53 is probably good advice.

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Katherine Dee's avatar

I’m sorry to hear that. What happened?

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Jonathan Herz's avatar

Oh it’s been going on for a while. It was mostly my fault. On the plus side I didn’t have to go through American family court.

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Katherine Dee's avatar

Hope you’re well

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Jonathan Herz's avatar

Thank you. Well, I can’t help but thinking the fundamentalist Mormons are right, that a man must marry three wives to attain the highest degree of glory and become a god.

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Rufio's avatar

Favorites 🥹

6, 18, 29, 30, 31, 36, 47 😭, 51 😭, 53, 57, 58, 68, 69, 70, 71

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