I think the problem with the "sex negativity" discourse is it conflates 2 very different ideologies:
1) the social conservatives who idealize tradcath life, think feminism went too far and hurt women, are critical of sex work from a "coarsening of society" perspective, and want women to settle down into earlier marriage/childrearing and b…
I think the problem with the "sex negativity" discourse is it conflates 2 very different ideologies:
1) the social conservatives who idealize tradcath life, think feminism went too far and hurt women, are critical of sex work from a "coarsening of society" perspective, and want women to settle down into earlier marriage/childrearing and be "submissive" as a tradeoff for a non-porn-addled, breadwinner husband.
2) the FDS (Female Dating Strategy) types who blame men for the sexual revolution's failures, are critical of sex work from a feminist standpoint, see men paying for dates as a "patriarchy tax" and not something the woman needs to reciprocate emotionally, and want women to withhold sex and stay single unless they can find a man who meets specific standards of high effort in relationships and financial/mental stability.
These people are not even remotely the same. In fact, they hate each other.
I think the problem with the "sex negativity" discourse is it conflates 2 very different ideologies:
1) the social conservatives who idealize tradcath life, think feminism went too far and hurt women, are critical of sex work from a "coarsening of society" perspective, and want women to settle down into earlier marriage/childrearing and be "submissive" as a tradeoff for a non-porn-addled, breadwinner husband.
2) the FDS (Female Dating Strategy) types who blame men for the sexual revolution's failures, are critical of sex work from a feminist standpoint, see men paying for dates as a "patriarchy tax" and not something the woman needs to reciprocate emotionally, and want women to withhold sex and stay single unless they can find a man who meets specific standards of high effort in relationships and financial/mental stability.
These people are not even remotely the same. In fact, they hate each other.
TOTALLY agree with you-- this annoys the fuck out of me too