#0: Your friend, by default.
What was a default friend?
When I first moved to California, and long before the days of COVID-19, I would go to any part of the Bay Area, at any time, to do (almost!) anything with anyone.
The only stipulations were that we had to have some kind of rapport and I had to feel safe. But otherwise? Totally fair game.
The project was simple: become the person people call when no one …