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truthscrolling's avatar

Great writing, really inspired a lot of empathy in me. I’ve always been quite dismissive of femcels, thinking of the label as a kind of stolen valor—‘Most women can have casual sex whenever they want, why are they complaining?’ I never really considered what it must be like to receive next to no IRL male attention for most of your life. Sure, most women could have sex pretty easily, but never experiencing the validation of being actively courted must be crushing for your self-worth. It seems natural that such women would turn a bit misanthropic, aestheticizing their suffering as a form of cope.

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Michelle Smith's avatar

Do they? I used to think I was averagely attractive. I’d get a lot of casual sex but never a boyfriend. One night in my twenties, after casual sex, the guy told me I was “very sexy for an ugly girl”, and I think he meant it as a compliment! I was utterly devastated and it forever changed the way I felt about myself.

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