Are Men Allowed to Wait For Sex?

Advice column #35

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Hi,

I am a 23 year old male and I’m saving my virginity for the right person. When I was 18, I did fall in love, but I haven’t felt the same way about anyone else since.

I feel like more guys can't openly talk about this because it just gets them bullied.

When I was 18 or 19, I was really stupid and was actually honest with other people about my dilemma. I received either harassment or silent judgement from most of them. My theory behind why our attitudes towards sex are horrible is this: males are pretty soulless these days, and that soullessness has seeped into a significant minority of women.

Anyway, my question is: Are there any books you’d recommend to help prevent me from becoming jaded about marriage and sex in the United States?

I feel like I’m swimming upstream and fighting for my spirit when it comes to relationships and sex.

I feel trapped some days, as I feel I'm in a society that doesn't want me to be happy and doesn't want me to find a long term relationship. Yes, that does sound like I'm pinning it on society and that's not productive but when every guy I know has been jerking off since middle school, it’s clear that there is a giant problem in this country that nobody wants to talk about it because it's embarrassing. 

Best,
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