How to Live with Someone Who Has COVID-19 Paranoia

Advice column #25

David, born with immune deficiency syndrome, plays in the enclosed plastic environment in which he must live to survive. Doctors at the Texas Children's Hospital search for a way to stimulate his natural immunity so he can leave his germ-free environment.

Today, we talk about what to do when your housemate is terrified of COVID-19.

This situation has been confusing me for a while now. I live in a group house with two units, and one private unit. I live in the private one, and my housemate A lives with others in two shared units. A is extremely risk averse, and at the start of COVID-19, he cut off his two units from my unit.

This hurt a lot! I felt ostracized from my community house. Then my close friend wanted to go on a date with someone in A's quarancule. He quarantined for a week and then got told by A it wasn't good enough, no date.

This seems like an unhealthy position of power for A to have on his housemate and my friend's relationship! He's hurting me and my friends with his risk aversion. This was a long preamble.

My question is: do I bring up my discomfort with A? How can I do that in a mature way? I've just been avoiding A. Do I move out? I'm angry, and it's making me passive aggressive.