It's Normal to "Catch Feelings," So Why Did We Pretend Like It Wasn't?

Reflections on hook-up culture almost a decade on.

When people ask me about my romantic life before my marriage, I often tell them I was a femcel.

Hindsight being what it is, I can say now that that wasn’t not quite true—I wasn’t a femcel. I just didn’t feel wanted.  

My premarital dating experience was marked by oscillating feelings of invisibility and disposability; cruel text messages from potbellied …