
I get a lot of questions about incels, incel-adjacent topics, and incel culture. Iāve always been hesitant to answer them.
One thing Iāve never wanted to do is market myself as some kind of āincel whispererā or āthe woman who gets incelsā or anything of the sort.
Even the best read or most well-meaning women typically do an awful job with these topics, not because women ālive life on tutorial mode,ā but rather, itās an incredibly difficult topic to empathize with.
It requires stepping into some elseās shoes and being able to understand the seismic changes that the dating landscape underwent, likely in your adult life. I donāt believe incels could have existed in the same way during my adolescence or early adulthood, and that colors my perspective. I grew up and was an adult in a fundamentally different world. That thereās been that much change in such a short period of time isnāt only incredible, itās hard to adapt to. This creates a lot of good faith bad advice.
Iād also like to add that at the end of the day, I also fully believe that this isnāt my lane in the same way cryptocurrency isnāt my lane. Sure, Iām interested in it and could probably say a handful of intelligent things on the topic. But would you invite me on your podcast to talk about it? Would you have me report on it? Iām just not the best person for the job.
If youāre curious about what incels believe, there are dozens of incel writers and thinkers out there. Some are, of course, more sympathetic than others, but Iād really like to emphasize that I am no expert in this.
Take everything that I say below with a grain of salt.